Hit me up!

Dear readers,
I've been doing some posts that have required your assistance.

I rather like keeping the gender ratio in my surveys even and I always end up getting more
male participants, so I'm now sending an S.O.S to all you lovely ladies that read my blog:

You can use the Hit me up -gadget on the right OR
Go to my About.me page and send me a message if you would like to take part!
I will be able to answer directly to your e-mail address whenever I have a new post that
needs YOUR VOICE in it. Even then, you can can choose not to answer some questions,
or even to not take part at all!
Contacting me will give me the option to inform you of any new surveys coming up,
so if you like the posts with reader Q&A's, hit me up!

And HUGE thanks for every single one of you that has offered their opinions, ♥ U!


xoxo,
© Anonymous92126

Toys VS. Boys

HI PEEPS!

It's time for another sequel!
We'll continue with the theme of sex toys and their use,
like we did on Don't toy with me.

One of my readers brought to my attention that some peeps are a little
scared of sex toys. Well, at least concerned that they will lead
to impossible standards and maybe even some day replace sex.

Don't get me wrong, solo sex is SEX. But there is a vast difference
between using your hand or toys compared to sexual encounters with other people.

How 'bout we look at some facts and then make our conclusions?

TOYS VS. BOYS - The female perspective

How do they feel?

Toys:   They feel like plastic. No pulse, no warmth
             (if not considering overheating the vibrator).
             The vibrations are nice, but for me, no toy will ever beat my own fingers.
             And some men are quite handy too!

Boys:   They feel, hard, throbbing, exciting and hot.
             The movement is different and when you're not doing it yourself it may surprise,
             either in a good way or... well, let's just say too deep is too deep.

(Toys 0 - Boys 1)

How do they taste?

Toys:   Tastes like.. nothing? Or then they taste like pussy.
             If I preferred pussy juices over precum I'd just fuck women instead.

Boys:   After a good scrub they taste divine! And precum is such a sensual and primitive flavor.                              Awesome!
             But yeah, a dick that's been sweating in the pants for a day or two - NO THANK YOU.
             Go wash it first and then we can get to business.

BTW!   I have never tried playing with flavored lube, have you?

(Toys 0 - Boys 2)

Talking dirty / reacting to touch, sounds?

Toys:   Well, they don't talk. At least my toys so far have been quite mute.

Boys:   Some men are the silent type, but at least you can hear them breathing.
              Some on the other hand make such sexy sounds when they're close that it's more
              of a turn on than the touching itself. Communication is just much better with
              a human being than an inanimate object. A definite win for the boys.

(Toys 0 - Boys 3)

After sex cuddling, high fives, conversations and laughing?

Toys:   Not gonna happen.

Boys:   Cuddling = great. High fives = great. Conversations = awesome.
             An afterglow laughter while you're all relaxed, still inside of each other?
             PRICELESS.

Another win for the boys.

(Toys 0 - Boys 4)


Okay, I think it's pretty useless to keep this going any further, right?
No toy can ever replace real human contact. There is much more to sex than just
the size, pressure or the general physical feel.
Toys suck at foreplay, they do not react to the way YOU feel to them,
you always know what they're gonna do next and there is no after-sex communication either
- you just have to go wash it with soap and hide it in your underwear drawer.


Obviously I don't have a dick and can't know how men feel about this, but I would
imagine that it is pretty much the same. Even if masturbation is a great thing,
you will still start missing having another person to experiment with, live out
your fantasies with and all the other things that come with human communication.

To all the men out there who are concerned about women having huge dildos
or super powerful vibrators: STOP WORRYING.

You can still use vibrators while having sex,
maybe get a vibrating penis ring and double the pleasure?

And the dildos just aren't that much fun to begin with. Size does matter,
but there are many things that we prefer over a huge dong!


When I think about the future and what kind of kinky, super awesome toys or
wonderful apps and gadgets it may hold for us, I'm more excited than scared.

Sure, a super realistic sex simulator might be addicting to some, but there
will never be the feeling of success, conquest or love with them.

Maybe it will prevent some people from cheating and finally couples with different
sexual appetites will be happier and more content. I doubt it will ever throw
aside the need for love, affection or even the tingling feeling when you're
flirting with someone and getting a response.



Let's embrace toys as a part of our sex lives, use them together with our partners
too and show them, that there really isn't anything to be jealous about.

Let's play together!



PS. Any last questions for my Q & A that's coming out later next week?


©  Anonymous92126

Bro or No?

Hi guys, how's it hanging?

So lately I've been doing some research
on how to know if a guy is into you or not.

Besides the obvious stalking and  Hey  I'm  totally  into  you
how do we know?

Guys always say us females are so damn complicated,
but I think it goes both ways.

To us girls you guys are these very mysterious creatures
and there is so much that we just don't understand.

Like for an example:

I have loads of guy friends. I'm just more comfortable around them,
because I don't have to hold my tongue and pretend that I'm not a sick twisted fuck. Because I am.
And you seem to be down with that.
Guys also really love food. Like, a lot. Not more than me though.

So I hang out with my friends pretty often.
I just randomly invite people over to watch a movie and eat.
Then listen to some music and explore the fascinating world of YouTube.

BUT I have heard this following statement plenty of times and I just don't know
what to think anymore, because it would totally screw things up for me.

So, I have been told by several people, guys mostly,
that if a guy goes alone to a girls house to watch a movie and hangout, he's into her.
Like, there is NO doubt about it.

They're saying that guys will always hangout with guys, if they have to choose between friends.
Bros before hoes. And that if a guy comes over to watch  movie with me, they probably wanna fuck me.

WHAT?

This would mean 80% of my friends wanna get down and dirty with me.
I don't know if I'm fine with that. See, I would like to think that I'm just fun.
Good company. Entertaining. I would like to think I can be just one of the guys.

And sure, sometimes they make a move. But that's pretty rare.
Mostly we just chill and they leave and say good night.

When I'm with these people I can let my guard down and be who I am.
But what are they actually thinking? Are they just there to get some?

This has really become a problem for me.
And just to clear things up a bit, I would like to add,
that I'm only talking about my single male friends that I know to be straight.

I have a lot of guy friends that are in a relationship and for them it just must be nice
to be around a girl you can share some of your relationship stuff with and maybe
get some advise on women. Or do guys rather do that with guys too?

SO CONFUSED.

Can't it just be platonic?

Guys I really need you to come clean and share your point of view.
If you're single and you go to a girls house to catch a movie
and maybe eat some junk food, listen to music or whateverthefuckyoudo,
do you always think it might lead to something more than just a chillout-session?
Help a girl out and tell me what your thoughts are on this subject!
And girls, give a shout in the comment box below if you too find guys very complicated.

PS. We're finally over 800 cherries popped!!!
      Thank you everyone, this is so great!

Comment below.
Oh, and remember to follow me, @Anonymous92126 on Twitter,
to get a better view of the voice behind Sexclusive!


© Anonymous92126

Dating 101

Lets be honest, dating is messy.
It's AWKWARD and filled with false pretenses.
People trying to make themselves desirable and
others fighting to be themselves and being let down over and over again.

When you add certain different expectations and rules about dating,
how are we ever supposed to make it happen?

Don't get me wrong, people don't always want to fall in love.
Dating can be fun and casual. In the best way.
You might even make good and lasting friendships out of dates gone wrong.
But don't we all wish to find someone to share our lives with? Eventually.

I love being single. Free.
After being in a long relationship, that's all you want.
To re-invent yourself and find new things.

But there's always this little hint of loneliness
after you watch a late night movie and go to bed alone.
I don't know about you, but I can't seem to shake it off.
And I'm definitely not a relationship person.
Right now I'm not even looking around to see if there's anyone out there for me.
But I do have that itch to be noticed by someone - to really be seen.

And I have a secret to share. I've never really been on a date.
Like, what I'd count as a DATE.
Sure I've had coffee, even a bite to eat.
And randomly invited people over for a chill-sesh and watched plenty of movies.
When does it become a date though? I have no clue.

And then there's the things you expect from a date,
that might not match what the other person has in mind.
Like, should people have sex on the first date?
OR will it just screw up the whole dating aspect of the relationship?
Can a lunch count as a date OR does it have to be dinner?

How the fuck are we supposed to know what to think?
Are we just gonna have to be more clear when we ask people out?

"Hey wanna go see a movie sometime? Oh, and it would be a DATE."
As if asking people out wouldn't be uncomfortable enough already.

I decided it's time to ask the audience what they think about this.
And see if gender makes any difference.
I asked people to answer 7 profound questions about dating.
Also, I simplified the answers a bit and fused together the similar ones.

Describe the perfect first date?

Women:
• A nice dinner, but in an imaginative setting, something that makes it unique.
• Not awkward? Maybe doing something together, that either one hasn't done yet.
• The man should pick me up and take me for a surprise date. There should always be food. 
• Having dinner and going for drinks after, then maybe a nice walk before heading home.

Men:
• Just walking around the city, maybe a park, looking at things and talking without a hurry.
• Going to a quiet place where you can relax,
   maybe opening a nice bottle of wine and putting on some music.
   Then just talking and getting to know each other without distractions.
• Tandem-parachuting or something else that's not so mainstream.
• I like traditional dates, candle light dinners and such.

Who pays for the date?

Women:
• I think people should split the bill.
• The one who asks the other out, should pay the bill.

Men:
• People should discuss it before the date takes place to avoid any confusion.
• 50/50 unless the other person forgets their wallet or something,
• The man always pays. Unless it's the woman who asked the guy out,
   then you can split the bill. A man always wants to pay for their own share.

What time would you like the date to start and does the day of the week matter?

Women:
• From Thu-Sun and late afternoon or evening.
  The beginning of the week is always too stressful for a date.
• During the week dates should start earlier
   but during the weekends they can start as late as 10 pm.
• Six-ish? And preferably during the weekend.

Men:
• During the week dates should start at 3-4 pm and during the weekend at about 6 pm. 
• The timing doesn't really matter to me, but it would be good to have the next day off
   so you can enjoy the evening without thinking about the next day
   or worry where you're going to wake up.
• Day of the week doesn't matter and 5-6 pm would be optimal.

How soon after a break-up it is civil to start dating?

Women:
• Break-ups take time, so I would wait at least a couple of weeks to get back on the saddle.
• Longer relationships take more time to forget than short ones, even months.
• You should discuss it with your ex and mutual friends if you have doubts.

Men:
• I think this varies for everyone, there is no rule to follow here.
• No permission is needed after the break-up.
   I evaluate the situation based on how long the relationship was and was the breakup hard.
  You shouldn't rub their nose in it for a while after things end badly.
• After a long relationship you should learn to be alone first.
• Right away.

Would you have sex on the first date 

and would it affect the possibility of a second date?

Women:
• I wouldn't have sex on a good first date, it might screw things up.
• I wouldn't have sex on the first date, I want to get to know the person first.
• If the chemistry was there and the sex was good,
   it wouldn't affect the possibility of a second date.
   But if the sex was bad, I might not go on a second date with him.

Men:
• I wouldn't mind it. And if you want to make sure you see them again,
   you can always leave something behind.
• I don't limit myself with boundaries made from thin air
   and if I like the girl, there is always a chance for a second date, with or without sex.
   But if the sex was good, it would make me more eager to see them again.
• I might, if the sexual tension was really strong, if not, I would wait until I knew her better.
   Sex if usually a little awkward at first
   and will get better with time and when you know what the other person is like.
   It wouldn't affect the possibility of another date.
• Only if I had known her for a longer period of time already.

Can people express their lack of interest for a second date during the first one?

Women:
• There's no need to say anything.
• You can hint it, but I wouldn't want anyone to say it straight to my face,
   especially if I would have had a good time.
• Yes, you can be honest about your feelings, but I wouldn't end a date prematurely.
   You should also try be polite.

Men:
• After the date it's good to be honest about your feelings,
   but I think you should always see the date through.
• YES. Giving people false hope is cowardly.
   I'm honest about my feelings and I'd like people to extend the courtesy.
• Yes, but people should always be considerate of the other persons feelings.

What would be the worst location for a first date?

Women:
• Church.
• Any occasion that has either person's family members there.
• Sport events.
• A movie theater.

Men:
• A funeral.
• Any place that doesn't have date-potential. It should be romantic.
• Church.
• An expensive and fancy restaurant filled with people competing for money and fame.
   The date just can't go well if people have to have a certain role on from the beginning. 
• A bar or a movie theater.


That was it for the Q&A part of this post.
I think it's interesting that men had more variety than women!
But there was nothing too surprising in the answers.
Here's some conclusions that I made while listening to what these people had to say
and reading their answers:

1.  People mostly expect the first date to be inventive.
     They want the other person to put time in planning the event.
     Almost everyone seems to be bored of the basic "movie and dinner" setting.

2.  Women are surprisingly willing to pay for the whole date,
     if it was them who asked the guy out.
     Men would like to either split the bill or pay for the whole thing,
     maybe it's emasculating to let the woman pay?

3.  Some people are too busy during the week,
     but during the weekend the perfect time to start a date would be 5-6 pm.
     People want their dates to take time to get to know them.

4.  People that come out of long relationships are expected to take some time off,
     but if you only dated for a couple of weeks, feel free to jump right back in there!

5.  Most women wouldn't have sex on the first date.
     But the ones, that are willing to do the deed and dirty the sheets,
     say that the performance will have an effect, bad sex can put a woman off for good.
     Men are more forgiving and also more willing to have sex on the first date.
     I can't say I'm surprised.

6.  Most women wouldn't want to say anything or know if the date was a complete bust.
     Men on the other hand are very eager to share their feelings.
     Usually it's the complete opposite,
     so maybe this has something to do with clingy-psycho-ex-girlfriends?

7.  A first date should never take place in: a sports bar, a club, a funeral
     or any other kind of church activity, your mother's house or a movie theater.
     Noted.


And while there is no denying that we're all individuals with different needs, we should now be able to avoid some first date mistakes, plan a perfect date that starts at approximately 5:30 pm and split the bill without a fuss.

Now go out there and have a good time!
Let me know if you found anything surprising
and share your own thoughts about dating in the comments section below.

© Anonymous92126

♥ PORN #1

Hi!

I've gotten many compliments recently regarding
the post where I admitted to watching porn.

I hear it makes me brave or some shit.

It seems women doing so is still a bit of a myth.
And it applies to more than just porn.

We can talk about bleeding once a month,
sore nipples, sex, yeast infections and our gynecologist visits.

SO WHY can't we talk about masturbation and what we use to get off?
Is it too personal when we do it all by ourselves?

I say it's about time we started to respect
the safest way to explore our fantasies
and got to know our sexuality without shame!

So, consider this post as shock treatment.
Here I am, making the first move - how modern of me.

FAP FAP FAP - How I experience masturbation and porn

I think I was 11 or 12 when I accidentally found the button.
And from there on out the next few years were spent on learning
all the different ways I could push it.

The shower head used to be my favorite.
And I still rather enjoy it while taking a bath.

But there is something I found during those first years of exploring,
something I can't really take with me to the tub. PORN.

I remember being home alone and going through the old VHS-tapes.
I felt like I'd die of boredom. Until I hit the jackpot.

A tape that started with the words The man and two women.

It was nothing like the porn we have today,
with the close-ups and terrible acting.
But it made getting off much faster and much more fun.

Then porn found it's way to the internet and suddenly it was all within our reach.
Though, I have to admit, it wasn't as easy to find as it is now.

But like I already mentioned in Cyborgification,
our standards for this visual aid have gotten out of control.

With too many categories to choose from,
we spend more time in finding porn than we do in watching it.

And then we have to know all the necessary lingo,
just so we don't get any nasty surprises.

With

DP,  3some,  gangbang,  milf,  tranny,  granny,  teen,  twink,
orgy,  creampie,  anal,  BBW,  femdom,  bdsm,  S&M,  golden shower,
scat,  roman shower,  fetish,  hentai,  gonzo,  voyeur,  DVDA,
moneyshot,  handjob,  blowjob,  rimjob ...

... no wonder searching for porn has started to feel like its own kind of a job!

And for some of you that might not enjoy porn the way I do,
here is why I like it so much:

I'm a very visual person,
and I like the fact, that with life being so fucking stressful,
I don't have to be already relaxed to fap.

With porn I can do it in the middle of the day
and get rid of some of the pressure.

I mean, try masturbating with your eyes closed
when a couple is fighting loudly next door,
knowing you only have 30 minutes to do it
and being already pissed off. No can do.
I sometimes need help getting off.

And porn provides it.
I don't see anything wrong with that.


The comments section below has the option for you to stay anonymous.
So open up. Especially women, but men too. Do you watch porn?
Can you do it without porn?
Do you talk about masturbation amongst friends?
Remember to say if you're a guy or a gal!


PS. A part #2 is coming up next!
© Anonymous92126

Labels for daters

Hello readers.

Today I will give you a very sexclusive view
on a subject that's the talk of the day.
It was requested by one of my readers and I happily obliged.

We are all born in a certain way - with genitals.
And while not including people born intersexed,
that is what defines us biologically. What separates the genders.
Or at least it used to be.

Nowadays it's not quite as simple as that.
We have the third sex: the transgendered, androgynous
and the pangendered people, who wanna have it all.
I just call them greedy.

And if having more than two genders to look out for on
the dating scenario isn't confusing enough, lets bring sexuality into the picture.

Lets see.. hetero,  gay,  bi,  tran,  pan..  who can even keep count?
No wonder people like to date online when hooking up
has taken a step to  what the fuck -town.

I mean damn.
Now you need wikipedia just to make sure you don't offend people
by not understanding what their sex is.

And please, don't take this the wrong way.
I don't shun people because of what they have in their pants
or who they wanna screw. Sure, lets all be good friends.

But someone please shed some light on the situation.
How are we supposed to know what meat to eat?
The menu is just impossible to read if every dish is written in a different language.

Is gender becoming obsolete?
And why do some of us still have the need to define ourselves?

Share your thoughts!

© Anonymous92126